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Originally Posted by RDMercer
Her anger is bottomless.
I also think anger can be substituted for hurt...
Her hurt is bottomless.
She has been hurt and betrayed by multiple people close to her. Me included.
She is stuck, cant move forward, cant move past it.
Shes in physical and emotional pain every day.
Her body has betrayed her.
She cant even think like she used to.
Theres reasons why Ive taken so much, and reasons why Ive done a lot of it alone to keep others out of it.
But Im tired. Im tired of no peace. Right now Im keeping my distance and its good.
Maybe this will spur a change.
Goodnight
RDM
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While I do not suffer from physical ailments and while I do work, I too have suffered from a LOT of pain and hurt in my life, a LOT of abuse, and I deal with depression and anxiety issues, yet I am a very loving, giving and supportive partner to my husband. I do not take my anger and pain out on him. Instead, I go to therapy and I am on medications for my mental health issues and suffering.
Your wife has immense suffering yes -- but again, this does not give her reason or justification to lash out at you in anger over and over again. She is beating you up verbally and emotionally.
She needs professional help. She needs therapy and a good counselor.
Yes, your changed behavior and pulling back may influence her, but if we're talking about a lifetime of emotional pain and potentially other mental health illness, she needs a professional counselor to address these issues. She also needs to understand and know that SHE is the problem in your marriage. And yes, she is the problem.