We chatted again and flirted with each other. He is doing well and so am I. He is sweet at times and funny. I don't think he is as absorbed anymore. He talks to me and responds to my questions. He laughs and we flirt with each other. He plans to take me out to lunch because I have to work early the next day. He wants to do something else afterwards and will see what we can do. I think he is ok and am beginning to like him as a person. He is attentive to my questions. He answers and has nothing to hide. I thought he was caught up with his work. He does seem to chill out and talk about other things too. He is not bad as a person. I will see how it goes and go from there. I have other matches on Bumble but have been ignoring them. Some of them say hi then ghost me. lol, why say hi then ghost me? I don't get it. I guess, they are popular and found someone else. But,the scammer was on there too. I realize if the pictures are too perfect and too glossy and if the person looks like he is posing for a glamour shot, then he is not real and probably a scammer. Also, the man I'm talking with said the same thing about the women's profiles that the scammers pics are too perfect. He has met other women on Bumble and they turned out to be working for businesses and bars. He met enough of them to know their game. He sometimes played their game then dumped them. So, he was skeptical about me initially but realized my pics look like me in reality. He was surprised but relieved that I am not a scammer nor working for some bar nor business. Yes, I'm just an ordinary woman with an ordinary job doing my ordinary thing. He likes this about me. I have the feeling he has been taken advantage by so many women, he was a bit jaded when he encountered me. I see that he wants an ordinary relationship without the drama. I'm ok with this if it ever develops into a relationship. I have to realize that his comments about the mental illness pertained to only one woman who was odd. Why would she tell him initially about having a mental illness and acting so funny with him? I would be taken aback too if someone did this to me. But, she was young he said. Well, there are mature young people also. I will see if he likes me for me, that is, as a person. Then, may be, I can tell him later and ask him if he has any weaknesses, then broach the subject. But, for now, all is well in our part of the world. Thank you all for your input and advice! It has helped me to sort out my feelings and realize that this man is not bad at all. I know that most of you didn't like what I said about him initially. But, he is not that bad! I'm getting to know him and so far it is turning out well and for the better.