Well I guess one can ask for permission ahead of time and then audio record secretly in the present? If not, I can see how it would be viewed as a shaming strategy.

I did this once with my son when he was having a meltdown.. just so he could see and understand what I was seeing and feeling. I regretted it.. big time. He was always remorseful over his behaviours, afterwards, and the recording just made himself feel even worse about himself.