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Originally Posted by divine1966
I don’t think it needs to be secret. Just tell a person i need you to hear how you sound. I am just making suggestions. I don’t know what needs to be done because I don’t know how things work between them. If I acted belligerent towards my husband but wanted to change my behaviors, maybe I’d agree to being recorded. Desperate times call for desperate measures. If he wants to improve he might have to agree to things
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I understand. For the OP, when he's in escalation, it will further push him over the edge if you start recording.. and likely unsafe. In that moment, he's irrational and out of control. If he were to agree to this ahead of time, it's important to be very discrete during the recording and then play it back once he's at baseline and willing to hear it. Just be careful, is all.