Educational patterns? Do you mean people are taught to behave in certain manner since childhood? Like women were taught to put up with stuff and men were taught it’s ok to dominate others even if it’s borderline abusive?

In my family women stood on their own two feet as early as early 1900s. I had somebody telling me that “our” generation taught women to be submissive and men we’re providers and women sat home and put up with nonsense. I found it very funny because that’s certainly not what was happening in my surrounding at all. In my family women stood up on their own feet starting with my great great grandmother very long time ago and didn’t need a man to survive. I think when you don’t need someone, you are less likely to tolerate abuse.

So story of submissive women and dominant men don’t play a role in my surrounding at all. My mom was an engineer and she was born in 1945 etc I’ve never had stay at home mom in any family in my surroundings. So this narrative is very foreign for me

But I heard of families where women were told their place is in the kitchen and because men provide, women should shut up.

You also have to include cultural component. I hear a lot about 1950s in the US where men worked and women stayed home and wouldn’t manage on their own. But it’s not true for every culture at all. Personally it’s not how I or previous generations of women in my family grew up at all. In my surrounding women had their own careers and decent lives generations ago so putting up with abuse was unnecessary then and certainly is unnecessary now