Hi Kelly, a friend of mine, medieval bushman, and I were just discussion the same thing in a previous thread. I can see how this is having a negative effect on your functioning. I won't steal his thunder, but he is going through something very similar. I'm hoping he might be around as he has a lot of wisdom in how to deal with this.
Can I ask if this is something that is stress relieving or is it something else?
I've mentioned that my husband is frequently unable due to anxiety and bipolar disorder and I do indulge frequently as I have a high libido. However, it does not impair my work or other activities. I hear so many counseling services are unavailable due to covid so I hope you can find some answers here with people.