I was going to comment on that - I thought Geekgirl was a cool name -- but then again, I am also a geek!

You know, I discovered that my boyfriend looks at porn while I'm away (that's part of being a geek - you know how to check for that stuff) but I have to say that it doesn't really bother me too much. It did bother me once or twice when I realized that he looked at it while I ran to the grocery store for milk (god, couldn't he WAIT???), but face it, our relationship isn't exactly stellar right now, either. It's hard to be intimate with your partner when you feel lousy about yourself.

But I hear you about the obsession and definitely about the affair. My heart goes out to you. Divorce sucks - I've been there.

Ian is going to be a-ok!