What is concerning to me -- well, there are several things here -- but he was able to keep in check this explosiveness for six months... and then it resurfaced and reared its ugly head. Should I feel hopeful that he can actually contain it deliberately and consciously, or do I feel hopeless that he really cannot contain himself? I do not know which to feel right now.

All I know is that his explosion on me, and then him turning it around on me by accusing me of having the anger problem - when all I did was react to his yelling, leaves me feeling like we're all the way back at Square 1 again, and that it's hopeless.

If he cannot see or acknowledge that it's HIM, that HE is the one with anger issues, not ME, then how can he even get help for this? He has to admit to it first, and he has not, to date.

He DID say that he was sorry for "causing" the fight the other day. So at least there was that acknowledgement.