I don't exactly tiptoe around him.... he hasn't exploded on me like this in 6 months. But he does fight with me on some issues, and I stand my ground.

But to be honest, I am physically shaking right now. My PTSD is seriously triggered, and so now, yes, I am afraid of his reaction to what I pasted below.

I just wrote him this text:

You accuse me of having an anger problem, when you’re the one who exploded on me and started yelling at me over a hairbrush and a simple question I asked of you. I told you I will NOT tolerate you yelling at me and I will NOT tolerate you treating me that way. You have explosive anger issues. And if you don’t own up to that and maybe even get help for it, then we cannot work out as a couple.