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Originally Posted by Have Hope
I think one solution to this is to make yourself fully responsible for your own happiness, which means not relying on someone else for it. This means doing a lot of self care activities, ie, doing things you enjoy, which bring out your passions, and pursuing your own interests in life..
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This ^^ is a great start and I think you've started doing this already.
I also think it's helpful to have ready available "scripts" you can use when your wife is being reactive to these changes. Something assertive, simple, and non-emotional.
Don't engage with her attacks. She'll likely feel threatened by these changes and will escalate further. As much as I feel for her (in some way) it's not your issue. It's hugely important to remain calm and limit these conversations.. the less you say, the better.