I do understand not wanting to have a blow up fight.

Maybe put it in writing that you think there are things to discuss and if he wants to do it via text/email or in person. It might work better in a text than face to face because it gives him time to think it through

I hate when stuff is out of place. My husband takes travel coffee mugs to work and then leaves them in a car instead of bringing them inside. It’s a pet peeve of mine. He is pretty much bald so no hair brush needed or he’d never hear the end of it if he moved it. I don’t do well with stuff being not where it belongs.