Can you afford the things you buy? Not if I want any savings for emergency and a new dog. Is it just the amount of items you buy because you're "just an aunt"? I've brought diapers, stroller, layette set, shampoo, lotion..... I've spent just under $XX. If I HAD extra money every month would pay $XX month for college instead but I can't afford that for any child my nieces and nephews have. I can however I can spend one time $XX for first child for all my nieces and nephews. If I save from the time they find out. That's like $XX/month over time. I don't plan to spend $XX per kid but $XX per family and something smaller for subsequent children because usually there's only one baby shower. My problem is I want to keep buying and that would be unfair to my other nieces and nephews if/when they have kids. I feel they got gypped and will not get gifts from many.