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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
I think you can trust yourself. You are now wiser.
On one side, you are seeing things clearly and have clear your boundaries and you are standing up for yourself. This already should give you a credit.
On another side, you are being compassionate with people who are important in your life, in this case, your husband.
You are doing the best it can be expect from a person, in my opinion.
Don’t put the blame on yourself and your capability to choose. There’s not a perfect marriage but as you saw, the important is that both parties are ready to grow. If your husband can’t do it, you have the right to look for yourself.
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Thank you sooo much for your compassionate and kind post.
I appreciate you saying I am doing the best I can. I am trying. I do have clear boundaries, and I am standing up for myself. I am trying to be compassionate with my husband -- I do still love him, even though I hold anger towards him right now.
I don't trust myself though. But I guess I am getting ahead of myself. We're not separating right now, and divorce is not on the table at this moment. At least it's not being discussed, even though it's on my mind.
Thank you.
