I agree, whatever both in a relationship agree upon is what goes, but yours has inappropriate red flags.

His objectifying comments in front of your daughters are definitely inappropriate.

In my experience, my mother dressed very attractively and pretty sexy from as long as I can remember. But I never remember my father or step father making any remarks that were uncomfortable. Maybe my step dad would say something like “Oh baby!” In a flirty way and it was complementary, also I was in my teens.

The same thing with me getting dressed up and raising boys. I wore some fancy outfits, but I am a little ashamed to say I ventured out in some really sexy ones. However, my husband didn’t make any comments, nobody did. We just scooted out the door. Well, those days are over and we had fun while they lasted...

I think your husband is being disrespectful checking out other women and inappropriate by objectifying you in front of your girls. It sounds like there are some bigger issues there.

All you can do is speak up and tell him how you want to be treated. Hopefully he can change. I’m sure you are far from alone in having this issue.