well unless you can prove that he has absolutely no control over his behaviors and words due to his diagnosis, I’d say he needs to stop or at least curb inappropriate behaviors regardless what causes it. Does he behave like this on a job? If not or not to that extent, then he has some control over it?

My husband has Tourette’s and severe OSD (he has ADHD as well but it’s neither here nor there as very many people have it).

It’s not something I think he has, it’s something he actually has. He is on a very low medication dose because he is afraid it would effect his career if he increases his dose but without meds he’d have hard time leaving the house. Yes it causes him to do some goofy ticks and make some goofy sounds and say weird things (although thankfully nothing of sexual nature or degrading or unkind). When something does come out he addresses it. By now he knows and I know what’s Tourette’s and what’s OCD or what’s just him being stupid lol he had it all his life and was first time diagnosed at age 20. He uses some strategies that he works on with his therapist.

So your husband doesn’t know what causes his behaviors? And now you are trying to figure out why he acts this way and think he just can’t help it? So do you really think your husband objectifies women in this manner and makes these comments and acts this way because he has ADHD ? You also suspected he has NPD or HPD and now it’s because he is obsessing about things.

So you don’t think he has control over staring at women and being inappropriate or argumentative or whatever other things he does? If that’s the case, he needs official diagnosis demonstrating how he has no control over anything. I don’t think you’d ever find such diagnosis unless maybe you can prove that he is incapacitated