The simple emotion is love. Are you madly in love with him? You may decide that all the pro’s and the intensity of love, and the not wanting to get divorced may be something you choose to stay in the relationship and learn to cope with the fact that when he gets stressed out, he yells at you. I know it triggers you, but you may choose to work through it. There’s no shame in that.

I’m glad you celebrated your anniversary and aren’t fighting. That’s a good sign that you are not leaving him. You just need to negotiate with him to not yell at you and for you to calmly deal with it when he does (because this is his way and it will be a hard habit to break).

I wish I had learned to cope better many years ago. I’m on meds and only these are actually helping. Yes, my husband triggers me but my bad reaction to it is my flaw. If we had divorced and I blamed myself for it because I had emotional issues, I’d have felt even worse.

Take your time.

Another trigger for me that I’ve noticed is holidays. Can it be that your anniversary also caused stress for you both? Anyway, glad it’s over.