I’m sorry that I just read this now! I’ve come to terms with the idea that alcohol may be a bigger factor than I realized, but I still don’t even really know. It’s gotten so bad, I had to give him an ultimatum: quit drinking or we are done. He chose to quit drinking, but now he’s just depressed and angry all the time. The only other possible causes besides the drinking are childhood trauma and the fact that he has never learned how to talk about his emotions. He’s going to therapy, so I’m hoping something good will come of it. Meanwhile, I am living in misery. If you’ve developed any insights, let me know! You are the first person I’ve encountered who knows what it’s like to live with someone like this.