I am sure you are feeling really horrible. And you have the kids. You don't yet know how this will turn out. If you begin not enabling he could get angry about that, too. I mean, you both have habits that have been in place for a long time. But NO ONE deserves abuse, verbal or otherwise.

Like I said, things are still in flux. Perhaps he will come around.


It is so common to try "social drinking" because he is afraid that he won't be able to live a "new normal" but...yes, if he quits drinking he will have to confront his personal demons.