On the flip side, when he's loving, he's wonderful. He's sweet and generous with his affection and love. He treats me like a princess and showers me with loads of affection and caring. That is what makes this kind of tough.

But I know my boundaries. Regardless of any positives, that bad stuff is enough to make me RUN and FAST, if it continues.

I don't even think I need a list. I know in my mind and heart that I will not put up with any amount of abuse and that this by itself, will end our relationship. If there was no abuse or raging anger, I may be able to put up with other negatives that would be on that list IF I am constantly showered with love and affection, AND respected. But once respect goes out the window, so does my self respect AND my love for him.