You click with all these wrong men because you are attracted to unhealthy dynamics. All this “special” chemistry has no meaning.

Plus unfaithful married men don’t date or have relationships with random women. That’s what they have their wives for: relationship and dating or what not. They are looking for sex on a side, that’s it. Don’t stoop to that level

Give it some time with a guy you aren’t attracted to. See if you can become friends if he is a good guy. Maybe attraction will come later. Focus on human qualities and his character. Not on sex