When someone cares, they don’t forget you. The media, the stores, everywhere mentions holidays, so it’s nearly impossible to have no clue. While too high expectations are unrealistic and bound for disappointment, minimal expectations would normally be met. For those who had abusive mothers, doing nothing is understandable.

I was always very kind to show my mother love on holidays. In recent years, I had to reflect that there had been some abuse and some unhealthy family dynamics I tried to work through. I went back to being kind and giving to her again. I decided the good outweighed the bad. Although I am more cautious now.

I don’t judge anyone else here who feels any way they do for their moms.

I know this may be faulty thinking but— I feel that because I went through anger at really bad treatment from my mother and reacted to it, that my own son turned on me and I lost him, and I was not an abusive mother, I was a great, loving one.

I’ll try my best to not expect anything from him tomorrow. But, if he doesn’t even text me, I can’t help but be very upset.