Hi SoAn,

I struggle with this too. Do you know what makes you pull away when small things happen between you and other people?
For me, it’s because I can’t stand the possibility of being hurt, and if they can hurt me in some small way, then they can do it in a big way too. I don’t like the idea of needing someone. I am pretty bad at showing emotions. Also I’ve never been very sure of who I am, so it was almost impossible for me to feel close to anyone, when I don’t know who ‘I’ am. They couldn’t meet the real me.

I think it would work best if I could accept people for who they are, and that their actions say much more about them than about me. Maybe then I would feel closer to people. Also I think a lot of people who appear to have really close relationships actually don’t know each other that well.

Ok so I am still struggling with this, but I think getting to know myself better has helped with it overall.