Everything’s pretty much back to normal, however, we had some tension last night over his father. He said that his father is being abusive towards the hospital staff and yells at them, flinging racial insults and slurs. So I made a criticism of his father being offensive, and made the comment that he also used to (and probably still does) yell at his mother. My husband got very defensive of his father and said I was judging him. So I stood my ground and said that yelling is NEVER ok, that his father IS offensive and that even HE says that about him. So he’s allowed to comment but I am not? I got angry and said I’m allowed to have my own opinions and it’s not like I’ve said something he hadn’t said himself, minus the yelling of course. Then he practically excused away his father yelling at his mother over her spending too much. I reiterated that yelling is NEVER ok. I also told him it’s ok to be critical of your parents and you can still love them.

This seems hopeless. If he even agreed to seeking therapy he has a long way to go. He’s SO defensive and defends his father’s own abuse. That is not a good sign.