Yeah, maybe try being friends with the nice guy. Maybe attraction will come later. Forget the guy who is married. That's unhealthy, immoral, etc. you know this.


I know that in the past you've been in a hurry to find a relationship with someone, but consider slowing down. Consider taking care of yourself and your emotional pain, and finding good healthy coping skills for yourself, instead of dating, before you put yourself out there.


What divine said about you being attracted to unhealthy dynamics, she could be on to something. That can take a while to break that pattern, cycle, etc. It can be done though. Just give yourself some time.