I wonder if it was the other way around and he never touched you how you would feel? I have found for me I don't desire sex as much as I used to. I'm lacking touch. My DW has never been affectionate in our 35 years of marriage.
Usually I initiate and she responds. In the past 2 years I have not initiated more than a dozen times and she has maybe twice. We are not as sexual as we once were.It bothers me but, I am tired of being the one that makes the first move.

Otherwise, things are good.

Also, I don't think anyone is responsible for what they do in their sleep.