kiya... I just reread this and another idea comes to mind. I wonder whether it would be possible to have a conversation about triggers. You wouldn't have to get to much into the subject, just to reach the point of saying that you'd like to work out a signal since it is sometimes hard for you to express anything verbally about it. I don't know what the signal might be, but maybe something like ... Look, T, when you see me touching my right ear, please realize that what you're saying is triggering for me .... I dunno ... imho Troy