-- we have sex daily, but until i asked her about the underwear she never wore her new underwear or did anything fancy. i understand this could be because she has finally lost some of her pregnancy weight and wanting to feel comfortable in her own skin. but the fact that we weren't having sex daily before and now we are in conjunction with the attention to her hair, nails, etc. had me concerned. thus i went searching and found some more things.

the thing is, i'm unsure if i am searching and finding things to fit a narrative, or if they are really happening and i am just noticing all of the things now because i did not pay enough attention before.

also curious if he ever tries to flip the situation on you or tell you that you are imagining things, that you have already talked about this, or etc things along those lines to try and avoid a conversation?

she is willing for couples counseling she says, going to try and see what is possible during COVID.

appreciate you replying, it has been a tough few months and it means a lot to get some advice.