I feel your pain, my wife and I were together 25 years, 17 living together as an unmarried, committed couple then, 2 months before our 7th year of marriage, she announced she didn't love me and hasn't for a year and wanted to be free to go out with her friends, do what she wants when she wants, answer to no one and live alone. This happened 7 months ago in October. She did move out 16 days before our New Year's Eve wedding anniversary. I am still devastated and don't know how to process this. We were best friends and tackled so many things and succeeded in life together as a team. I have no real answers, just vague answers as to what happened. She recently told me when I asked her to help me understand so I can have some peace and be free from thinking about what's wrong with me and that I needed closure. Her response was as cold as ice and she said; it's not my job to give you closure. I don't know who this person is anymore. She is no longer kind, loving, wonderful, happy, or compassionate. To me at least anyway. It's an awful feeling to live with and I wouldn't wish it on anyone.