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Originally Posted by MsLady
I'd think so. To his credit, he's afraid to lose you. You're a good person who is on top of his behaviours and I suspect he's aware he's a better person by being with you even though it's not enough and it's still damaging.
I'm in the same situation. This morning I woke up with multiple "I love you" notes taped to the walls, fridge, mirrors.. over compensating.
Gottman Institute sends out weekly emails (Tuesdays and Thursdays) about relationship strategies. He talks a lot about the Four Horsemen that is the death of relationships. Both my partner and I receive them. It might be worth a look?
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You're very on top of these behaviors yourself! I love your posts and insights. Thank you so much.
Yes it's overcompensation. I can sense that he doesn't want to lose me and now is afraid he might. Those multiple post it notes may as well be my husband's as well. He's overdoing it.
I will take a look at Gottman Institute -- thank you!
I made a therapy appt for myself for Wed to discuss my marriage with my therapist finally. I haven't had an appt in 6 weeks or so now.