I'm not sure how old you are but back then spanking was a socially acceptable form of discipline. It's not right or ok but I bet they don't understand it as that. They probably believe they tried their best in raising you.

I'm sorry your feelings were not validated. It took a lot of courage for you to open yourself up, for only to feel worse than before. That really sucks. It's a good thing for forums and therapists we can utilize that can help us work through some of the pain.

As far as your sexual orientation, I'm in full support of the LGBT community. I'm waving my flag for you. Your parents come from a different life and don't understand it. Be you. In time they will have processed it and even if they don't like it, may accept it, regardless.