A part of me realized I am also scared of giving this ultimatum -- I mean, he loves me, yes, but what if he doesn't fight for us and fight for me? That will say a LOT about how he feels IF he's not willing to fight for it and to do anything I ask to salvage the marriage. I also realize that he may just not be capable of the work and of facing himself. He may rather continue living his life in denial and walk away from me and the marriage to salvage and preserve his false self image.

I also have to prepare for THIS possibility.

I finally have a therapy appt tomorrow and it cannot come soon enough.