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Old May 12, 2020, 02:11 PM
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Originally Posted by lady411 View Post
He’ll again @Have Hope ; I’ve been following your posts and I commend you for finally standing up for yourself and not allowing the yelling to continue if it’s abusive and you definitely can not tolerate it anymore.
I’m very curious to know what brought you to this turning point now. Besides the fact that he has been a thoughtful, loving husband, and after all the other times you’ve tolerated his behavior before, What is it that broke in you last time he yelled at you?
Thank you for saying that.

It's not that I have tolerated it all this time. I was going to leave him 6-8 months ago and planned on it. I told him before and after we married that I will not tolerate it. So I planned on leaving him. Then things improved, and I became hopeful and happier and more settled. Then, it happened one more time, and I am back to planning on leaving him.

I have zero tolerance for abuse. You must understand this about me. I will not put up with it in my marriage. Period. I did not wait to get married all these years to then end up being abused.

I have a very strong sense of self respect and self worth. That's why I will NOT tolerate it.
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Thanks for this!
lady411