I'm very frustrated. I went to Facebook support groups for women in abusive relationships, and I'm getting bad advice. One woman suggested I stop talking to him, that I sleep in a separate bedroom and stop communicating with him entirely. Not what I wish to do right now, and NOT helpful.

Then a close girlfriend suggests that I not mention divorce the next time this happens, and to leave it open ended if he doesn't get help? How would that make any changes? That is no longer an ultimatum.

Why can't people outside of PC just support me in my plight? I wasn't looking for advice on how to approach this. I already have a plan. I was looking for moral support!

It's just really frustrating - I feel like women who are also in abusive relationships are of no help. Again, I am talking about these Facebook groups where I am trying to get support.

And my girlfriend? She's telling me not to grieve right now. I just don't understand some people. I AM grieving. This is my process. This is what I am going through right now. I am preparing myself mentally and emotionally to have to leave him, and naturally, I am in part grieving over that right now. Why is it SO hard for people to just support someone? Not talking about PC.

I will mention divorce because I will leave him if he doesn't get help. That will be my next step.

I don't see any other way to approach this when I'm at the end of my rope, and when I told him we would have a serious problem IF it happens even one more time.