I think I used to be more decisive.

When you seek validation from someone for years, it becomes easy to let them make a lot of the decisions and you just fulfill them.

I've reached a point that I second guess myself a lot at home.

I'm not someone that manages people at work, but I do interact with people a lot in a mentoring role. At work, I'm very decisive, and I know I make good decisions, both for my workplace and for the people around me.

I'm a good parent. I question my parenting some, but I'm a good parent.

Decisions that directly involve my wife, I will usually defer to her, and just enact what she wants. Sometimes it's because I worry I'm not seeing things from her side enough, and sometimes it's not worth the argument.

RDM