Dear Nonamelady,

I am so very sorry for the stressful situation you are in. Wish I knew what to say that would help. Each person's brain is so mysterious and it is hard to know why it causes people to do the things they do. Hopefully many members here will see your post and offer you opinions and suggestions that will be helpful. So very sorry I was unable to be helpful to you. My heart goes out to you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen