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Old May 14, 2020, 05:37 AM
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Originally Posted by sarahsweets View Post
Oh @HaveHope I am so sorry. Becca had the baby and its been a hell of a week and a half so I hadnt logged in. Does it have to be a confrontation? Can you write him a letter? I do not think you need to wait until the next fight, Even if there is no next fight I think you absolutely need therapy as a couple. What if you calmly spelled it out and then you walk away? Go for a walk, a drive or go to the bedroom and let him rant if he wants to. Hold steady and insist on counseling no matter if he gets made or threatens or not. Message me if you want. Hugs girl keep your chin up.
Thanks so much, @sarahsweets. I hope Becca and the baby are doing well and are healthy!

I have a plan that I am talking through with my therapist. I am not ready to do anything just yet. We couldn't even see a couples counselor now if we wanted to, due to the pandemic. I feel very strongly about sticking to my last words: "IF this happens again, we will have a serious problem."

Every day I come up with new thoughts and new emotions. It's a very difficult position to be in -- and I have conflicted emotions. I do love him still, but that love has waned a bit. I feel very cautious right now.

Everything is back to normal again, at least on the surface. We also just had our one-year wedding anniversary.
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