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Originally Posted by divine1966
It’s possible he is married too.
Come think of it I was once asked out by a guy I knew in a community, he wasn’t a stranger but I only knew him superficially. He asked me out but only wanted to text, not call, and texted at odd times and only during the week and then he wanted to set a date on weekdays in the evenings and late evenings, not on the weekend. Then he asked where would I want to go on a date and I suggested this one public park that also had a coffee place near by, he instead said he’d like to come over rather than going on a date. Hm
I told him that this arrangement won’t work for me and cut it off. Later I found out he had a live in long term girlfriend the entire time he was contacting me and asking me for dates .
So trust your guts
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I had something similar happen which is why I started freaking out a little BUT I'm also Codependent and want to control EVERYTHING.
I can't make him pay for the sins of others, and he WOULD video chat me whenever I would ask. I'm now asking myself if I ignored that part and melted down because he didn't do what I wanted on my terms...
BUT he could be playing games. I have no idea. He told me pretty early on that he wasn't casually dating - that he wants a wife. I would hope at this age he wouldn't lie about that...
It's the not knowing. I've been the fool in one relationship too many, so I want to protect myself, but I don't want to push a good guy away either.
I'm a magnet for Narcs, and don't trust my "picker". Usually if I "spark" with a guy, he ends up being a total Narc. I can't do that again.
How do you know?