I wouldn't worry much about the car and fighting over that; if I could I would either get all sets of the keys (hard to take it from you that way :-) or just figure out how to get another car. I don't know what state you live in and its licensing laws and whether you have any credit in your own name, etc. but if it is the only car you two have, he could easily make a case of needing it and, since it is in his name only, you'd have a heck of a time getting it "back" I'd think. I'd get a plan before I tried to outwit him though, make sure I had backups to his stated uglinesses in case what I wanted didn't work.

I'm glad you work for lawyers and sounds like you have a friendly one who might be able to help you find a good one to represent you. I have worked for lawyers several times and once when I went to a new job, my boss retired "followed" me to that company (not a law firm) and when I got into insurance trouble with a hospital dunning me for money I didn't owe, he was very helpful telling me what to do to solve it. Now my husband and I have a wonderful woman lawyer who is also a CPA!