If you sought counseling, perhaps you could address parenting with a partner who is a compulsive liar and who is impacting your relationship with your children. I agree that children should not be placed in the middle of conflict by being leaned on emotionally by one partner. And no acts of violence or yelling should be allowed in front of children, ie, pushing your partner out the door. And what kind of "stories" is he feeding to the children about you? Is he saying negative and mean things that would turn your children against you?