That’s very understandable. You have a very loving relationship when it’s good, but when it’s bad...it’s rotten. There are plenty of couples who stay married like this forever.

Ideally, you can work through how he curbs his yelling at you and you stay married.

I’m not sure about giving him the ultimatum about stop or else divorce. What did the therapist say? I think if that is looming over your heads, it can’t be good.