I came across this link to a youtube talk in another forum and I think it's something that would really benefit you if you watch it. My concern about you from what you have shared is that you try to be a good father, provide for your family and you pretty much do all the house hold chores and cook the meals and parent. You have had to see if you have value from others at work etc., even here, and you wonder if you will face some kind of anger about that. You have been encouraged to give up your own needs in order to feel worthy and this is very unhealthy for you and you have every right to have your needs met. You deserve to be able to say "no".