Dear lovelyxoxo,

Hi and welcome to the Forums. It is nice to meet you.

You seem wonderfully reflective and insightful to me. I wish I had the knowledge, experience and wisdom to comment intelligently on the things you discuss and ask, but sadly I lack these.

The human brain is very mysterious. I read a lot of scholarly works in psychology, psychiatry and neurology. Usually they begin with words like "even today, the human brain is still poorly understood." It often seems as though the brain has a mind of its own, so to speak. Why the brain moves people in various sexual directions seems very mysterious to me.

Sometimes human behavior doesn't easily fall into categories. Sometimes things fall along a continuum or range. I don't know, but I suspect that sexual inclinations are like this and that there is not just black and white but a whole range of shades of grey. Sometimes it hard to put one's experience and feelings into a little box or category. What do you think?

I hope you find satisfactory answers to the questions you are pose since they are part of your understanding of yourself and identity. So sorry I could not be helpful to you. I hope others will prove to be more helpful to you. I wish you only the best!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen