I’ve read somewhere that marriage counselors could determine if marriage is long lasting by observing how couples fight. If they fight dirty (name calling and yelling or gaslighting and pointing fingers etc) or they argue in a healthier manner could determine how things will go in a long run. I have to remind myself to not fight dirty as I am easily irritated and snap over minor things.

When you say name calling what do you mean? “You are such a slob always leaving dirty dishes on the counter” or is it actual “bad” names? (Just an example)