He has called me a "psycho" in fights, he gaslights me by saying the fight is all my fault, that I started it, that I'm the one yelling and being abusive and then he throws any problem I may have into the mix, saying "YOU have problems and you need help!" I'm IN THERAPY, HE IS NOT. I AM ON MEDS, HE IS NOT. HE STARTS every fight by yelling at me. I DO NOT start these fights. He turns everything around on me, deflecting all blame off himself onto me for being the instigator and the problem. This is what I refuse to deal with in therapy, is if he starts to deflect and blame me.