Maybe therapist could help you with how to communicate all this to your children.

But children that young do not need to know that you and dad have conflicts and issues.

They are too young to understand, it’s not appropriate for their development.

We aren’t talking about teenagers here.

I don’t think the issue is that you don’t want to be tight lipped and sweep things under the rug. Children that young do not need to be in the middle of parental conflict because they cannot fully grasp no matter what you communicate to them. It’s not age appropriate. The best is to maintain peaceful home where parents do not fight and do not resent each other. That’s our responsibility to provide such home for our children.

I understand that you cannot accomplish it as it’s not how things play out in your home. Then you need to ensure that children know nothing about your conflicts. They are too young to understand that “parents have problems and are working on them”. 1 and 3 are way too young for this talk.

But talking to a therapist about it is a very good idea