I'm sorry your did not get the acceptance and peace. Very often abusers forget or pretend to forget the hurt they do as it's too overwhelming for them to see the pain they are doing. I'm going through the same stuff with my abusive parents . No matter what I try to talk about, they just pretent that nothing like that has happened or they never bring it up in following conversations and pretend as if even no conversations have happened. I have to seek support from therapist otherwise I doubt my own sanity. I always question myself whether all that happened really happened or is it a fruit of my fantasy. Also I try to diminish the hurt, or try to normalize it.
Hugs!