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sarahsweets · May 16, 2020, 04:28 AM

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Originally Posted by BlueSkyGirl

I finally felt connected to someone and I loved someone more deeply than I’ve ever loved anyone before. I took the Meyer Briggs personality test (I’m INFJ) and I google who I was most compatible with, and it was my affair partner. I also google which personality I least got along with, and it was my husband.

Everything else aside please do not use unproven methods to justify or "prove" why you belong with certain people. It has been proven over and over how unreliable the MB test is and the origins of the test are not often understood. And do not use google to look up stuff and apply it to your current situation. Its Google after all. If I want to find a peer reviewed article about something, google is my go-to. If I want to find out how to relate to people or diagnose their personalities to find out if I am compatible I use self reflection.

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So I broke it off a couple weeks ago and told my husband. I didn’t give many details at all, but I did say enough. That we kissed and saw each other a few times a week. He wanted to know how many times we kissed and I said every time I saw him.

If you broke it off a couple of weeks ago does that mean you were seeing him during the covid pandemic and against stay at home disorders? Covid began to take off in march and by the end of march most people were in some sort of stay at home situation. This means if you were meeting him you were exposing your self over and over again to covid and then bringing in home to your husband and children. So was your coworker. I am not trying to moralize anything but I take exposure to covid seriously and have a hard time not getting my panties in a bunch when I hear of people doing whatever they want. Its just not fair or safe.

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Since than my husband is coming to terms with it and is grateful I told him. He doesn’t know this guy but he wants to threaten to tell his wife should he ever contact me again.

I totally get this. Why should he be the only one hurt? (from his perspective)

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I loved him more than I ever loved anyone. Truly loved him and his soul unconditionally. He was my baby. I miss him so incredibly much.

You say this all started in Nov? so in essence this relationship has only been a few months and you love him more than anyone? I seriously question that.
You cant justify your infidelity by explaining what it is your husband doesnt do or make excuses about why its ok for you to see another man. If you do not like that way things are with your husband you need to end it with him before getting into a infatuated relationship with anyone. Its the right thing to do.
I want to be clear that I do not think you are a monster or terrible person. I am not judging you. People have affairs all the time for many reasons but the bottom line is its not the right thing to do and if your husband was doing what you do you would be devastated.