Thank you @bpforever1. I appreciate you response. My husband and I believe that he may be on the spectrum. There is no emotional connection, especially after having children. I was friends with the other guy for years before the affair. I am seeking out that emotional connection with someone.. companionship. I feel alone and disconnected to my husband. His symptoms worsened after having children 7 years ago and he is not empathetic and obsessively task oriented. He's also physically abusive. I've been trying to get out of my marriage for some time, but don't want to leave him.