I don't have any personal experience with this. (Presumably there will be other PC members who may have some coping tips they can share.)

In the meantime, here is a link to DocJohn's article on communication within relationships. And then, also, you mentioned your husband having been diagnosed as being on the Autism spectrum. I presume (hopefully not incorrectly) that he is considered to have Asperger's Syndrome? So, assuming that is the case, here are links to 6 additional articles, from PC's archives, on the subject of Aspie / NT relationships:

9 Steps to Better Communication Today

Romance, Love and Asperger Syndrome

Aspergers and Non-Aspie Relationships

5 Tips for Loving Someone with Asperger's Syndrome

Asperger's and Marriage: He's Always Looking for Debate

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/aspie...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/lib/self-ca...dium=popular17

My best wishes to you & your family.