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Old May 16, 2020, 04:24 PM
IceCreamKid IceCreamKid is offline
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Originally Posted by whereisthesun View Post
So my partners schedules are dense so he has 4 days off every week . So I guess I could be flexible in giving him the time that he needs . I understand he’s doing a lot of night shifts , I know it’s draining , I know he’s doing a lot for us. but at the same time I don’t want this to become a vicious cycle where I’m getting less and less of him . And I just wish he could communicate with me instead of getting himself so sick .

And I’m looking for advice and emotional support ..

Thank you for all of your replies thus far , knowing I’m not crazy I guess is a good first step.
A baby is more important than a video game. No one should put a child on pause; children need their parents everyday. I figured you'd say he refused to go to the doctor; that is why I suggested he call. There may be something in his symptoms that says something to a nurse or doctor or physician's assistant, and they might be able to suggest a plan of action over the phone (tracking how often he is sick, for example.) His health is important not just for himself but for the sake of his child. Having a baby changes everything. This isn't to say we can't have hobbies, work, etc. But our lives can no longer be lived completely selfishly. And long term, if his job is so horribly stressful and draining, then the longterm goal should be to plan to pursue work that allows for more life/work balance. I wish you the very best. I hope in addition to all this worrying about him you are taking care of yourself, too.
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